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This is What Everyday Sexism Feels Like...to a Man
What does a day in the life of a woman look like? Maybe it's easier to see if the woman is a man. Oppressed Majority is a French short by Éléonore Pourriat uses role reversals to shine a new light on the micro-aggressions and macro-aggressions that are an all-too-common part of the female experience. The result is more thought-provoking than laugh-inducing.
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I just asked my wife if she’s ever been ‘almost raped’, and how many of the women she has befriended or has had as acquaintances have been raped or ‘almost raped’. My wife is in her 40’s. As for herself – she said ‘never’. As for others, she could only remember one. In her recollection, none of her good friends, and she has many, have ever talked about having had this experience. Based on this small sample, I think the problem of female abuse is way overstated, at least in the Western world. Just my two cents.
1st woman, boss: How is having an asshole boss sexist?
2nd woman, jogger: Seems nice, a bit crazy. How’s being too friendly in an uncomfortable way sexist?
2nd man, daycare worker: Being controlled by a spouse isn’t just something that happens to women or Muslims.
“I mean, we are men” No, you are caricatures.
3rd woman, beggar: Being shouted at by crazy homeless people isn’t something that just happens to women.
4th women, teenage girls: She’s trying to show a gender swapped version of drunken fratboys here, but she did a really good job of showing how drunken sorority girls act- until they started getting violent, which is uncommon to real versions of both.
Police station: She accidentally did a good job of portraying how men are treated, and not women. As for the sexually harassing sergeant- that’s a good way to lose your job in an instant. As for how police actually react to sexual assault cases- look at the Duke University Lacrosse case.
Why does it not surprise me that the majority of people watching this don’t get the message behind it? You don’t have to be a woman to understand what they go through – it’s called empathy. Women go through a lot worse shit on a daily basis than we men do, and every minor gripe the privileged MRAs come up with to pretend their struggle is equivalent is laughable at best. No, not all men are rapists. No, not all men are assholes. But you know what? MANY are, and it’s your job as a member of your gender to be vigilant about that, not to condemn women for trying to change it. You might think you’re not part of the problem, but if you’re not striving for real equality, you’re not the solution either.
This movie was also meant to show the aggressions that men are put through these days.
Thought-provoking indeed. Like, where the hell did she park the car?
Can we please stop pretending that rape is a women’s only issue? The thing that disturbed me about the sexual assault scene was that it’s portraying a rape of a man exactly like how it might happen in real life, but at the same time the theme of the video implies that I’m supposed to laugh at how absurd it is. It’s not. The only difference being that most men’s rapes don’t get reported because there’s so much stigma against a man being vulnerable.
He totally shouldn’t have worn those sexy flip-flips if he didn’t want to have that hawt box cutter five-way in the ally.
People just need to watch the video and get the point of it’s simplicity. Role Reversal, period. Nothing else. Duh. Men just don’t wanna watch the truth, or they’re too dumb to understand what this video is about so they have to comment negatively. Kudos to the artist and maker behind it!
@Andy
Andy, your approach leaves a lot to be desired. You do realize this social issue like all other social issues can only be solved through compromise, argumentation and mututal understanding, correct? See, coming here and spewing a bunch of assertions about how somebody (or a group of people) dont understand this concept or that word or how they are willingly ignorant is counterproductive. So my suggestion to you is to rethink how you approach the issue. I assure you, when people are at a disagreement on social issues it’s rarely because one side is ignorant and the other is profound. And nobody likes to be called stupid or ignorant. In fact that makes people a lot LESS likely to want to talk. Every time you begin an argument with “you’re stupid, let me tell you how it REALLY is” you’re a lot more likely to alienate people that you could have otherwise maybe reached an agreement with.
tripe. this sort of shit perpetuates this misandry going on in the world. it’s a warped perspective based on the assumption that all men are evil and that women are the eternal victims. get off the high horse. women who harass and torture men is near to equal. men are stronger than men and are usually able to overcome it, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen. there are more violent women in society, notably.
@M Yichao – Thank you for the response, and I completely agree… it is difficult to tackle the issues between genders that exist today, and to expect one video to do it, or to supply a full solution is absurd. I don’t mean to apply the full complexities of gender differences to one video, but I fear that the video, itself, is pushing the misconception that it can be that simple, while also reinforcing that men are the major cause. You bring up some good points that there is still a degree of acceptance/submissiveness that is exhibited by some of the women in the video, but the way they are presented, they are far too subtle in their context, given that the remaining content in the video is so obvious and vulgar.
I still believe that the presentation here is predominantly one-sided, allowing no circumventing of attention to the fact that some women tend to not just accept the pursuit mentality, but rather are actually encouraging it, and that’s what I have an issue with. I think there are certainly women (no matter how few), as well, who are beneficiaries of the current gender phenomena, as you so put it, but this video doesn’t highlight that fact. Even your assessment that men are doing the “most obviously bad” things assumes that the weight of responsibility (as a direct result of this video) lies in the realm of male behavior.
Again, thank you for the obviously thought-out response. You definitely bring out some points that were overlooked on my part, but I just fear that this video, in its current form, does not convey enough ownership on women, as their role in furthering the sexism presented here is only a passive one, and I would argue that there are women in our society, as well, that actively support the current status, through anything including dating customs, marketing choices, prostitution/stripping, and anything in between.
And of course, most guys posting here wont understand or get the real point of this video. You’re right, not all men are like this, but unfortunately, a majority of men are, and a majority of women are affected by it. Obviously you guys do not understand the word “privilege” because men almost never, and i mean NEVER get treated the way women do in ways that degrade you, sexualize you, and put you in a place where the other sex will have more rights and privileges than you do. So my suggestion to men who think this video was a dramatization. This video doesn’t cover the “extreme” of sexism. It takes situation that are literally happening all the fucking time. But you wont hear too much about that because society is male dominated, and when you have all these awesome male privileges, who really wants to lose that, right? It’s sad to see the ignorance in you people.
This video does literally nothing to help progress the feminist agenda. The man used in this video is weak, pathetic and effeminate. He too easily takes offense to minor comments which wouldn’t bother the majority of men. I believe most would shrug it off, laugh and consider it “a bit of banter”. Effectively all that this video has managed to achieve is portraying active feminists as being overly sensitive, thin skinned and whiny.
Whilst the content of catcalling and general sexism is a problem. The rape scene is so far fetched that it becomes farcical.
I do not believe that sexism is right. Women though frequently use femininity to their advantage as well. At the end of the day men and women are different and sexism happens to both just in different ways.
Overall this video is an absolute joke. At least if they wanted it to be credible and relatable to men they should have picked a man who isn’t so laughable for other men
After watching this video, I think that the problem isn’t how men view women, it’s how women view men. If this is really what a woman believes how a man would react in these situations, I think that sort of perception is much more of an issue. What this is, is what women come to expect about themselves. Not to say, that there are men that aren’t assholes or womanizers, but that is a far lower percentage than what this is trying to project. This is warped beyond belief to make men seem horrible and emotionally inept. Really, are the things said coming from the video coming from men, or the women that consistently think this would be the response they expect.
The logical fallacies within this video make me indignant as well. Exploring the nature of sexism by reversing gender stereotypes is unfair as it does not include consideration of how women would feel if they experienced the sexism men face. Granted, the sexism against men may not be as extensive as it is for women, but the implied message of this video that men routinely engage in sexist actions while women are guilt free of such behavior, is incensing. If women want men to stop sexist behavior, then they should do the following: Be willing to sign up for the selective service (many women don’t even know what that is); don’t think it is acceptable to get an abortion without consulting the man first (if you’re so concerned about your body and think the decision is yours alone, why are you having sex?); don’t assume all men want is sex (the way you treat us because you assume sex is the motive for everything we do is insulting); don’t judge the worth of a man solely on his income (I’ve had a few women directly tell me they would not date me because I make under $80,000 annually); don’t think you are in charge of your spouse’s or boyfriend’s social life and obligate him to do something before consulting him or think he needs your permission to make plans with friends; don’t think it’s sexist that a woman’s place is in the kitchen, but then refuse to mow the lawn, maintain the cars, repair the roof, and pressure wash the siding and patio; don’t go around saying men are simple and really just big children (you don’t like being called illogical and weak, but your fine with calling us simple and immature?); don’t stare at my muscles or butt (you like your eye candy as well)…I could go on and on, but you get the point. This is a two way street and both genders should work to better themselves in this department.
This video is full of so many logical fallacies. Its appeal to emotion, appeal to ridicule, slippery slopes, over simplification, begging the question, probably some guilt by association, hasty generalization, and I could go on and on. Some people’s arguments on here are guilty of circumstantial ad hominem. This video is a subjective work of art, i.e. based on the opinion and interpretation of the author. It makes no implications of a needed resolution. Thus, naturally, the video does not take a purely logical stance and so, you are all over analyzing or over complicating it and reacting exactly how the video, by its nature, begs you to. If anything can be drawn from this, the truth of the matter is, that the title of this video begs the question that men are still the majority and dictate the direction of sexism. The title of this article, in light of the video, suggests that everyday (common; casual; frequent; general; or average) sexism consists of cat calling, rape, exploitation, disrespect, and inequality. This is absolutely a sad, difficult truth, however, because of the added ellipses in “…to men” within the title seems presumptive and may imply that men do not understand sexism or that it is not expected that men experience sexism. In other words, the added ellipses adds a sense of patronizing condescension because its not generally a man’s understanding. So, the person who re-posted this on here may have fallen victim to the video’s assumptions and subjective manner as the rest of us. The whole purpose of this video was simply to reverse the gender role. It offers no statistics, only a subjective perspective, so those of you who are trying to make this video a case for objective debate are trying to make possible the impossible.
enough with your dull life’s, now get the kettle on
BULLSHIT!
This video is far from how men would react. Harassment in the alley will quickly turn into an orgy. Sexual advancement at the red light will turn to a quicky. Women walking with boobs out will make that scroll more scenic – big titty, small titty, I’ll do her, I’ll do her, I’ll do her, nope, I’ll do her but cannot tell anyone. With this much advancement, soon he will start wondering why he even has a girlfriend and breakup. Guy at the police station will be doing the math, trying to figure out if he can get away with it or not and what the repercussions would be if caught.
I like how the full video disables comments.
And Joe, if you’ve ever read YouTube comments, you know that it’s usually just a festering ground for horribleness. Real discussion doesn’t happen on YouTube.
@DavidP: I think you and I had a very different takeaway from this video. I did not hear the message “men, stop being pigs!” The conversation between the main character and the character wearing a headscarf, and also the exchange between the officer and her aid, really highlighted that the problem is societal reinforcement and acceptance by both genders, not “dudes be keepin’ girls down.”
You also complain the video offers no relevant solution. Thing is, there IS no easy “solution” to institutionalized marginalization and objectification. I watched the piece and saw a very poignant highlighting of a societal phenomena, a phenomena that needs attention and highlighting. It’s not the artist’s job to always offer a solution, but rather to start discussion and thought (which I think this film is very successful at, considering the number of comments here).
To sum it up – I don’t think this video BLAMES anyone. I think it’s easy as a man to feel blamed, because hey men are doing the most obviously “bad” things. But the video also touches very smartly on many more complex interactions and negative habits we don’t even really stop to notice. Again, the main character judging the man with the headscarf as being oppressed when it is also his religious freedom and agency to wear a headscarf; the aid being complicit in sexualized comments and complimented, and probably utilizing his attractiveness for career gains. The video highlighted the obvious and also smartly touched on the subtle ways in which our culture feeds into a problematic reality, and if you feel blamed, you probably shouldn’t, but instead feel inspired to be at least a little more aware and sensitive to the latent and obvious sexisms that punctuate our day-to-day lives.
I noticed the youtube version had comments disabled. Always raises an alarm when a video doesn’t allow discussion. Problems can’t really be solved without discussion.
@Ash, you are so far removed that you don’t fully get the reason why people are objecting. So please, listen to some thought that doesn’t directly reinforce your own, for a change…
It’s not the fact that I haven’t raped anyone, so I feel this video victimizes me. It’s the fact that this video heaps ALL blame onto MALE culture. It offers awareness to the problem, which I think is GOOD, but no resounding solution, and an incomplete, simplified message.
There are more things at play than simply saying “Men, stop being pigs!”, but that’s all this video offers. It has no relevant solution and just passes blame to men. This is why you perceive men as trying to be “victimized”. You feel that it is their fault as a result of this video, and to a big degree, IT IS. I will not and cannot possibly dispute that. But is it 100% their fault? And since when is “Hey, stop being pigs!” an effective solution? I’ve stopped…. does that mean the problem is gone? NOT IN THE LEAST BIT.
To sum it up – “good guys” object to this video NOT because it is untrue, or even because we want to avoid the issue, but rather because it provides NO SOLUTION – ONLY BLAME. It is a dividing piece, not an open call to find a solution, which is really what we all need. Equality will only come from understanding, and I’m sorry, but you simply aren’t understanding the other viewpoint very well (or even trying to, by a quick dismissal through labeling it as “bs”. But hey… it’s not like it hurts anyone when serious problems get dismissed – well as long as it’s a male problem.) .
@fozzyozzy yesssssss.
“It is godamn shame there are still men in this world that view something like this as an exaggeration. Walk outside and take a poll of the first five women you see walking up to a bus stop or train. And if you object on behalf of all “white knights” then think about this: A woman describes a feeling of oppression and fear and here come all the societal “nice guys” to shout her down because some “girl glared at me funny when I held the door, stupid feminist not appreciating my non rapynes!”
This whole “I’ve never raped anybody thus I am victimized by this video” bullish*t needs to stop.
@Anonymous – I know my responses tend to be long, so I’ll keep this one brief.
I’m not arguing the CONTENT of the video. The CONTENT is spot on – catcalling, rape, and general objectification/mistreatment occurs (farrrrr more often than I probably even assume). No question, and it’s an absolute shame (though that far understates it).
The MESSAGE of the video is what’s being attacked. The MESSAGE is that these issues are brought on by MALE culture. The MESSAGE is that MEN must fix their perception to solve this problem. What about women that solicit this attention? Prostitutes, gold diggers, women who attract attention to garner free drinks at bars? This further reinforces the pursuit mentality amongst men.
It is a larger issue that cannot be simplified by the MESSAGE from this video. We need to readjust HUMAN thought, not just MALE thought.
@crabbyvirgo I think you missed the point. Why are you choosing to shame women with good bodies as opposed to focusing on his argument that men are conditioned by women in society to act a certain way. Even listening to today’s top 40 tries to force a man to to think that he must act and behave a certain way. To act as if the onus is just on men or is just on women is absurd. This is a complex issue with several different nuances that no one side can identify. We all have a horse in this fight, and we are all biased. But to shame skinny women and to act as if men are never adjusting their behavior based on society or how women think is just silly. We all have our own baggage and the world affects each and every one of us differently. People will always be offended, and the world will never be a perfect place, so othering people into a solution is no solution at all. It is just a way to make people feel like there are problems with who they are fundamentally as human beings. That all being said the previous poster did seem to have an obsession with 1 direction…
@anoynymous
you’re completely misunderstanding what is being said. Nobody says “I’m a good guy so this isnt true”. Read more carefully. We are all aware that rape happens and that it’s a problem. Nobody’s disputing that. What we ARE disputing is the feminist tendency of highjacking rape as a female-only problem as well as any sort of abuse sexual or otherwise. As David pointed out it’s a HUMANIST problem which applies to both genders. Another point of contention is that this video implies this is a standard practice which in turn implies that pretty much all guys act this way and THAT is what is being disputed.
@anonymous
“a day”implies a standard day, a typical happening, so just about every day is implied. Someone pointed out a statistic of 1 in 4 women being rape victims in the states? I havent checked the numbers of that as it seems really high but for argument’s sake we’ll go with that number. You DO realize that 25% is by no means AT ALL a “vast VAST VAAAAST” majority right? And this video clearly portrayes heavy forms of harrassment including actual rape. So yes, it’s an exxaggeration whether or not you say ÿep it’s right”. And notice I am not denying that a large number of women have felt like this at one point or another but then again this goes for men as well just on a slightly different circumstances. So just because you have at some point felt like this it is not to say it’s a day in a woman’s life nor a typical nor a standard day ergo it’s exaggerating.
David P, thanks for posting that. “This video isn’t true because there are good guys like me” is basically saying “I don’t believe you.” This video has been met with offense by “good guys” that “don’t believe you.” That says a lot about the progress in dissolving rape culture.
Objectivity: This is “a day in the life of a woman.” Not “Every day in the life of every woman.” Every woman doesn’t get raped every day. But the VAST VAAAAAAST majority of women have experienced days like this. We watch this video and say “yep, that’s about right.” So if you say this is an “absolute exaggeration” because you’ve never experienced a day like this, you’re either a man, or living a very privileged life.
@Anonymous – You’ve lost the point though. This video (whether intentionally or not) targets MEN as the issue. It is a HUMAN issue, regardless of gender. You’re far over-simplifying the problem. The fact still remains that no matter how “good” I am, there will be others around me who further push this gender divide, and who, unfortunately, will still mistreat women.
I can’t simply “remove” myself from that problem by saying “Oh, well I’m good… so who cares?”. Then I AM the problem because I’m ignoring the issue at hand. Not to mention, the way I approach women on a day-to-day basis is widely formed by their perception of other men around me. And for all of the cries to sympathize and see it from someone else’s point of view on here, I think there are so many people who fail to take their own medicine. ( You do realize that you saying “if you’re a good guy, this video isn’t about you” is comparable to me saying “if you haven’t been raped, this video isn’t about you”, right? Because it portrays my gender and our subsequent ‘norms’, I am undoubtedly associated. )
This video (whether YOU feel it is about me, or not) still affects my life because I have associations to being a male. This video speaks to ME by saying that I am a horrible person for the things my kind of people do. It speaks to ME by saying that the thought process associated with the men who perform these actions is a disease brought on by MALE culture. And the comments that go alongside this video speak to ME by further dividing an issue amongst genders when a solution requires COOPERATION, not BLAME. And until we seriously start to understand both sides of the discussion, articles, videos, and ideas like this will continue to get fierce resistance because they oversimplify a complex issue and alienate those who are trying to help by association.
@fozzyozzy
Ohh look at that, making personal attacks are we? Nobody’s shouting down anyone. This is a discussion. What is not up for discussion is that this is actually an absolute exaggeration. Notice the title “a day in the life of a woman” so unless you can say every woman gets raped every day, then yes it’s an exaggeration. Also what you did is the very definition of taking my words out of context so I cant say I appreciate that. Also the males you call white knights are the vast VAST VAAAAST majority of the male demographic. And btw a “feeling of oppression” is void of all meaning. I can have a feeling of oppression because I feel oppressed by all those blond-haired people and look how bloody many of them are around! I am SO oppressed. No. Look at facts and reason with those results. The sociopaths that engage in the behavior shown in the video are a very small although very noticeable portion of the demographic the video generalizes and lumps together.
@Emily and how are you any different ending your post with a “shut up”? So you have the right to be outraged but he doesnt? The guy was absolutely correct in saying videos like this are propaganda which serves no purposes other than separating the genders. Problems are solved by making compromises and coming together to reach an understanding, not one-upping the opposing side and showing them what horrible people they ALL are.
To the guys that are offended by this video: you don’t have to keep saying “there are good guys.” Women know that. This video isn’t about you. You can breathe a sigh of relief if you want, that you aren’t part of the problem, but the point is, there is still a problem. You can make it your problem if you want to.
It is godamn shame there are still men in this world that view something like this as an exaggeration. Walk outside and take a poll of the first five women you see walking up to a bus stop or train. And if you object on behalf of all “white knights” then think about this: A woman describes a feeling of oppression and fear and here come all the societal “nice guys” to shout her down because some “girl glared at me funny when I held the door, stupid feminist not appreciating my non rapynes!”
“majorsigh” – that is a prime example of a point several people are trying to make on this thread, but somehow gets dismissed quickly in favor of negative attention…
Why did you pick out the extremist cases? Why can’t we have a rational discussion with the progressive types on this thread instead of polarizing and starting a blame game? Why can’t we look at those trying to make strides to equality and unify, rather than passing the ownership?
Positive reinforcement is much stronger than negative reinforcement, and until we start realizing that the quotes you picked out are extremists amongst a large group of forward-thinking males that are trying to be included in the solution (but are STILL somehow being dismissed and lumped in amongst the rest of their gender as an enemy), we are NEVER going to find equality. It is a two-way street, and it’s unfair to assume only males are solely responsible for the behavior of the male population – though in no way do I want to try to avoid the larger issues here. Women are still treated more unfairly in the actions, themselves, but approaching the issue by trying to bring up the extreme cases first is not the way to enact change… which I think is the biggest failure of this video.
To Rastunas: Don’t blame your IGNORANCE on the French. It’s people like you who give the English a bad name. Ending your post with “you should be ashamed”- what because someone experienced something you’ve never seen? Why do you think this video was made in the first place? Because everything that happens in this video is still happening EVERY DAY to women. And yes, come of it happens to men too. But dismissing someone’s expression of their experiences is just plain IGNORANT. EDUCATE YOURSELF OR SHUT UP.
this is right …
It does happen all the time. All the time. Every day. If you’re out jogging in a parka and sweatpants, waiting for the bus, whatever. If you’re a man, you are unaware of it, because if you’re with a woman, it doesn’t happen. It happens to women when they are alone. All. The. Time. Try asking all of your female friends if someone’s ever attempted to rape them. Ask your mom, or your sister if you have one. You might be surprised.
Nice to see another French film maker creating a stronger divide between the genders. This does not portray an opposing view. This does not portray equality. This does not portray men in womens roles (don’t try to troll me, watch it again and really take note). This does not help or enhance women’s rights. This is a fantastical piece by an ARTIST. It does not capture even a small segment of the global population. It does not represent the male attitude. It does not make allowances for the age we live in. It does not represent a GENERAL world view. I have days and days worth of does nots, but only one does… It does misrepresent men in the most heinous of fashions. If anybody is living this life of subjugation, then say something. I have been surrounded by various forms of this horror for nearly my entire life (29 now) and the one thing I’m proud of as a male is that I’ve not yet seen, heard of or been forced to deal with such dismissive situations. Maybe your culture is still a little backward.(hahaha, French) Maybe your social system is still leaving a lot to be desired.(Hahahaha, French) But blaming solves nothing.(hahaha, French) Please, for the love of humanity, take WWII as a vicious example.(Bwahahaha, French) Blame helps nothing, nor does your attitude. I’ve done nothing to engender your hatred, but I’m sure you’ll find a way to hate me based on this message, but you’re wrong. Wrong and too invested in the belief that you’re right. Change your view. Be more accepting of humanity. Fight for the rights you earn, not the things you just hate men for monopolizing. It cheapens your claims, very quickly. Antagonism is not necessary here, it just makes you look foolish. That makes me sad. Sad for true equality and sad for real change. You should be ashamed.
“silly looking bitches like ones presented here.”
“good gawd what a bitch that man is.”
“getting raped if not part of everyday sexism.”
the comments section alone of this video is disgusting. hollow-minded fools like you are the very reason that people find the need to make these films in the first place.
@anonymous that answered me.
No it absolutely is not a jab and none of that behavior says anything about her being treated like an object aside from you being trained to think like that. As I said it may have been a crude attempt on the guy’s part but completely harmless and not in the slightest bit disrespectful. As for the door opening I have had the opposite reaction as well. A girl actually glared at me and barket out a “I can open my own doors thank you very much”. So you see it’s not about what social interactions I engage in but the perception of the one on the recieving end. Let’s take your example. If I am looking at my phone and she comes next to me saying I have a nice smile I can A) decide to continue the conversation, or B) say thanks and go back to my phone. At that point IF she persists only then is it invasive and forceful. So you see the difference? A one time interaction of this sort is by no means invasive as you have the choice of accepting or ignoring it.
On another note I never said “hysterical” but overly sensisitve – absolutely. And not because I refuse to listen but as I explained in another post because other women enjoy said interactions and you always have the right to say “no”. This issue must be looked at logically and with reason, not emotionally lest it turns into a barking match.
This is stupid I know I am gonna piss a lot of people off by saying this but women objectify men too. All those unapproachable women are objectifying men just as much. Feminists are so dramatic about everything. This video is objectifying men by assuming that all men act like that to women. There are shitty men out there but there are just as many shitty women stop being so self righteous. This video is very insulting to the male gender. The part where all the women look at him as rides by is bullshit. The creator of this video is honestly trying to say that she has never looked at an attractive an as he walks by..smh.
@crabbyvirgo You completely missed his point. He was saying as I understand it that it’s a two way relationship. That what women want to a large degree influences how men act. If you are overtly sexual, if you use sexappeal to get what you want easier then you cant really place the blame on the other side entirely. Supply and demand people. Simple as that. What is in demand will eventually end up being supplied and there’s no way you can deny that with a straight face. And that does mean that women often time WANT to be complemented on their looks they WANT to feel appreciated, they WANT to feel wanted and that is ok. And before you jump off the deep end, no I am absolutely NOT claiming that justifies rape(nothing does) in the slightest so dont make that connection. So yes, what women find attractive and expect from men will end up coming to fruition.
If you read carefully through some of the comments you’ll find a lot of women being offended at very simple and normal human interactions yet they forget that many many other women are looking precisely for thoe specific interactions. For example, I had a co-worker years back, absolutely gorgeous girl, took great care of herself, fit, smart and witty. We used to go out as friends every now and again and she always used to wear those pretty revealing clothes that emphasized her curves especially her chest. One time it was particularly distracting and as I said she was a looker. Now, it wasnt really bothering me but we didnt have that kind of a relationship so I mentioned it. Know what she said? “If I didnt want you to look I wouldnt be wearing this”. And she was by no means an easy girl, she had very high moral standards, she just enjoyed the attention and quite honestly I enjoyed being attentive. My point is that while some things are clearly out of line, many of the things people get their panties in a twist over are NOT. We DO respond to what is desired by the opposite sex. If girls like flowers, we make it a point to get them flowers, if they like fit guys we go to the gym more often, if they want more expensive things we work harder etc etc. Similarly if they want “bad boys” and the “YOLO SWAG” types, many guys will eventually become that to be able to get the girls and a lot of those “popular” types while seemingly fun at first sight dont really nurture proper, considerate behavior. That is what Joe was trying to say it seems. And he is correct.
I agree with the majority of what the video portrays. The filmmaker succeeded in conveying many of the inequalities women face everyday. It was brilliant to convey them by gender swapping, but I feel the title of the video is misleading. I don’t believe the everyday woman is faced with sexual abuse (dare I say, rape) on that grand of a scale. But I could be wrong.
Oh, the anonymous response below explaining why it’s a jab to give a woman points for owning a truck is from me, didn’t mean to pretend to be more than one person commenting. And I’m done with this conversation anyway. Some people just can’t be reached.
This is what it FEELS, not what it really is, don’t take everything literal.
“Sexism”….does not really exist, just bad types…..bad humans, men or moman with excuses or lies why they are acting bad. As a freind/father/mother/daughter/son. Its all the same. Either one is intelligence, or one is not. LOVE OR SEX?
The comments on this video are telling. I won’t bother to respond to most of them, but one in particular got to me. One person said something about not knowing any women who had been victims of sexual assault. Yes, you do know them. We just don’t walk around with signs plastered on our chests so that you know our most intimate tragic secrets. Your lack of awareness does not equate to non-existence. Of my closest female personal friends and family members, at least a third have been raped or otherwise sexually abused, most in violent ways. My first time was when I was about six years old. Several of my friends were raped when they were young girls. Some as adults. Statistics say about one third of women will be sexually abused at some point in their lives. But that might be a low estimate. I didn’t tell anyone about my childhood experiences until I was in my 20s, and no authorities were ever involved. So I am not counted in that statistic. And I would bet that neither are your female friends who haven’t told you about being abused. Based on your attitude, I hope they never do tell you.
‘Objectivity’ it’s a ‘jab’ to say she gets points for having a truck because its evaluating her like an object. She was just going to her car; she doesn’t really need to hear how much he likes or dislikes her or her choices. Now, when you open the door for the girl and smile at her you are soliciting a social interaction. Telling you, someone who obviously wants to interact with her, you have a nice smile is reacting to your action. Now, if say you were standing there looking at a text on your phone smiling, and she walks up to you and is just like hey you have a really nice smile, it’s a bit more forecful and weird right? See the difference? Now, what if she were a man that walked up to you and just randomly said you have a nice smile? Would you feel any different? Most men would, gay or straight. You are just proving the point that men refuse to listen to women about what hurts them. You just keep writing them off as ‘overly sensitive’ and ‘hysterical’. That’s the same response men have been giving for centuries.
I am a female living in Belgium (next to France) and I can absolutely relate to this video. I have been catcalled, touched in appropriate places and yes, raped. This is my reality. Do I hate men? Absolutely not. Am I aware that females sometimes use their femininity as an advantage? Oh yes. I am all for equality between men and woman, and also accepting our differences. But please, this video, take it seriously.
http://vimeo.com/84150219
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