Justice For Daisy
"I'm not saying she deserved to be raped, but,"... "what did she expect to happen at one in the morning?" said Fox News guest Joseph DiBenedetto, calling the "alleged" victim of the sexual assault case in Maryville a liar and a criminal, and placing her within a long, illustrious history of girls who cry rape to get out of trouble with their mommies. And then there's Daisy's own story, in the raw voice of a 15-year-old girl whose life turned on the kind of dumb choice teenagers make every day.
great place for a real look at the large convo: http://www.nytimes.com/roomfordebate/2013/10/23/young-women-drinking-and-rape/protecting-women-is-not-victim-blaming
Here’s a quote from an open letter from Angie Aker to her son, which you can read the rest of here:
Why can’t we all get comfortable talking to our kids about consent as a regular part of sexual education? I agree that wits are important for everyone. But it sucks that it becomes the girl’s responsibility to protect herself because it is assumed the boy can’t control himself. Here’s to educating our boys so our girls can enjoy the same freedoms they do.
Yes. i’m all for teaching females to keep their wits about them. I don’t think it’s anti feminist to do that. Don’t get drunk in the company of men/boys because you might be raped and if your are raped justice will be hard to come by. At the same time we teach our boys not to rape, not to touch a girl who’s impaired except to keep her safe AND we change the legal system and society to recognize sexual violence for what it is. That’s all we have to do. Then our girls/ladies will be safe. So simple. Har. I think that recognizing danger and behaving to avoid it is important because of the sexist society we live in. But only as a we continue to try to solve the problem of abuse and the way our society accepts the raping of girls and women in this blame the victim way. I can’t watch the news anymore.
Notice how he never says the word rape.
Honestly I want to murder shifty-eyed Joseph DiBennedetto. But — one thing always driven me crazy about these cases with questions of consent at the center (she was blackout drunk but according to the guy, consented) is the unspoken: that if she consented to sex, she hass essentially — legally — given up all of her rights. Consenting to a single act of sex is equal to consenting to ALL kinds of sex, with any number of people, to any level of violence. This is an absolutely unpopular feminist position to take but I’m going to take it because this conversation is vital — shouldn’t we teach our young women to avoid any sexual situations where they are impaired? Our courts rule over and over again that any man can get out of a rape charge with the simple assertion that a girl chose to engage in sex at all.